No matter how much you know about the subject of “love” and the love you share between you and your spouse, you always find yourself learning so much more from other couples you meet. I must have the best job in the world as I get to learn different things from each couple I work with. What’s so great too is that I get to learn all this with my wife with me. Ayodele has been such an instrument of support in my business. She’s always making sure I stay on task when it comes to me performing my job. Many times when I am shooting, I hear a little whisper at the back of my head…”errr…honey, that shot you’re going for could be improved just a tad bit.” I usually get very grouchy when I hear that voice, then she goes off to what I may at first see her disrupting what I think is a great composition and she does her magic. She’s so amazing at instructing, sometimes I’m tempted to just get her to do most of the work. What she does is ask questions very well of the couple. She gets to know them better. Gets me to work WITH them (as opposed to me working ON them). I’ve learnt so much from her about how to learn who the couple really are. What their true love story is about.
It’s very easy to be generic when it comes to these engagement sessions. Sometimes you have some ideas of what you want to do before the shoot but things change, you realise that one or two variables are slightly different or off. You’re not able to pull off that idea you initially had. The scene doesn’t look as great as it did in your head. The energy isn’t really there. I’m sure a lot of photographers “copy” this feeling. In such a situation, I strongly advise you to get to know your couple again, rethink your story, or more importantly find out what their story is: who are these people and what makes them tick or click! Work with those things. You’ll be amazed how inspired you’ll be. You’ll learn so much about them and their love story that you’ll start to ask the question…”Why didn’t I ask these questions from the start?”
That’s exactly what happened here between myself, Stephanie and Wayne (and Ayodele). I had other ideas of what I wanted to do with them before I started shooting their engagement session. The more I got to know them during the session the more I started to get creative. Their energy started to come out as we got to hanging out more. It’s so weird but it makes sense, you just cannot be generic with a portrait session of any kind. And why should you? Every person is different and everyone has a different story. So why would you want to fit them inside a box?!